Speranța Poenar
Aggression is part of our lives, and even at a young age children are giving signs of this in their behavior. We live in a society that is constantly evolving and rising, due to this fact we must pay attention, we should be careful and involved in observing the evolution and harmonious development of children. We can often encounter situations in which children show behavioral disorders, which is why we need to be prepared and well informed so we can facilitate their integration in society. Every toddler is special and different, this uniqueness giving him authenticity as human being. Teachers have a fundamental role, they must take into account these particularities and to adapt to the needs of the children.
The educators must know the shortcomings of the children they will receive in their group, to be able to modelate their activities according to the needs of the children. It is important to inform the group if you may encounter a severe case of aggression, to sensitize the children, to get the used with the idea and to understand future decisions that are taken.
In kindergarten we may often see some aggression tendencies, they may have a problem sharing the toys, or sharing a glue or a paper, due to this fact we should encourage the cooperative work. This team work will help them further on in their lives, at highschool, college and work, we always will be part of a team.
I will briefly present a case that I have know on my own. It is about a three years old kid which is intelligent and likes to solve logical-mathematical activities, puzzle and activities where he can be creative such as painting, doing sports and he loves hearing stories (usually fantastic stories). His behavior many times is aggressive, he hits his colleagues and even the kindergarten teacher, and at home he doesn’t have rules.
At group level, we brought to discussion subjects about emotions and how we understand and control them. After every activity the toddler were expressing their feelings, or emotion games were played. It is fundamental to try to integrate in the group these children, even if it is not easy, because we are responsible of them and how we determine their evolution.
The arrangement of the group also has an important role. In the playful climate, the child has the opportunity not only to deepen his knowledge and to put in order his personal experience in terms of knowledge, affectivity, and will always appeal to what he knows empirically. In this climate the child gains confidence in his own strength .
We must not treat aggression as a huge problem, we should embrace and accept it, but especially learn how to control it, so that it can not take over control of us. We must not frighten children or shout and scream at them, because we would only amplify their situation. They need calm, understanding and the use of appropriate methods to succed in making them control these manifestations.
In kindergarten, in my opinion, we can take in consideration some discussions about controlling our emotions and how we are showing them; aggression is just one example, love or fear can be the others. Emotional affective health needs to be taken in consideration, especially if we meet a case that needs it the most.
Some example of activities: a plan on a month of stories, a fantastic world with personalities from the books. Sport activities, integrated with ecology activities (for example: the toddlers were supposed to grab the bottles and papers and to put them in the right trash; the team who finishes first will win).
